The Practice and the Power of the Question
For years psychology was almost entirely focused on pathology; repairing the worst in life. In fact, until the year 2000 for every one article written about such topics as joy, love, happiness, gratitude and wonder there were twenty-one articles written about fear, depression, anxiety, and so on!
In 1998 a new branch of psychology-positive psychology-emerged, led by Martin E. P. Seligman, Ph.D (who at the time was the President of the American Psychological Association), which aims to build the best in life by studying those among us that are thriving, and report high life satisfaction and well being.
This movement catalyzed a change! The question changed from what is wrong, to what is right in life. There was wonderfully a new attention and field of study dedicated to observing those among us that held strong character traits such as resilience, creativity, prudence, perseverance, gratitude, curiosity and hope-even in the face of adversity or set backs. We can learn these traits and practice building them into our own character, just like you would build a muscle!
"We see what we are looking for and we miss much of what we are not looking for even though it is there. Our experience of the world is heavily influenced by where we place our attention" - Stavros
"The most common source of mistakes is the emphasis on finding the right answers rather than the right questions. The most serious mistakes are not being made as a result of wrong answers. The truly dangerous thing is asking the wrong questions" - Peter Drucker
Our words create worlds and can create a new reality. Here are a list of questions that can help you focus on what is already good about your life, and what is meaningful to you:
- What are you grateful for today?
- What are you looking forward to today?
- What strengths did you learn about yourself from a challenge?
- What is meaningful to you?
- What brings you joy?
- Who do you feel love and support from?