Happiness: Are You Craving or Committing?

Abraham Lincoln said, "Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be".

He isn' saying if we simply think hard enough about being happy we will be! Our happiness is a commitment. As Abraham Lincoln stated, the first step is a decision. Making that choice is the beginning, not the end.

I've yet to meet a person who wanted to be miserable. In fact, the most common theme I hear in my Coaching Practice from my clients is a desire to be happier. And yet, if I ask them to define what happiness looks like they very often can't. 

Not having a specific description of a flourishing life is very common. Instead, many of us spend our time hoping for stress to go away or dreaming of a time where everything stays neatly in place.

The problem with this wish is that life is always changing and stress is an unavoidable part of our human experience.

Committing to our wellbeing is a daily practice that also requires a target. The greatest archer couldn't make a bullseye if he couldn't see the target.

Start defining your goal of personal happiness by answering these three questions:

  1. What matters the most to you? In other words, what brings you meaning and purpose?
  2. What brings you pleasure?
  3. When in your past have you experienced happiness or a sense of joy? 

Please share your comments and experience. I would love to hear from you! 

To learn more about Joy's Coaching Practice visit her website at www.joystonecoaching.com