Just like so many of us do, I have people in my life that I often wish were different. 

But they aren't.

And no matter how much I stress, worry, manipulate or complain they don't change. And maybe they don't need to.

But I’ve learned that my spiritual practice is about me; not the world around me and not other people. This means that to preserve my peace and calm there wlll be times that I’ll have to shift my perspective and take actions that are uncomfortable - otherwise I suffer.

That being said, I must admit, not trying to change other people isn’t always easy for me.  In fact, it can be really really hard.

But what I’v found to be even harder than not trying to change other people is LIVING with anger and resentment. These toxic human traits do so much damage to our mind-body system. In fact modern medicine demonstrates that they can even make us sick and it clouds our reality of life.

The cost of trying to change other people is just too great. Therefore, every day I must consciously choose what I focus on, think about and do.

Because the freedom we seek is within own own perception and mindset, not in other peoples choices.

xo Joy

How I Stopped Letting Stress Run My Life

How I Stopped Letting Stress Run My Life

For years I let FEAR (and stress) run my life. I was anxious and overwhelmed - most of the time.

But then something truly miraculous happened.

In 2012, after years of seeking support from teachers, therapist and guides I woke up to the realization that if committed to taking small daily actions I might be able to stop letting fear and stress run over me.

By this time I had already been practicing yoga since 2005; but it wasn't until I committed to a daily spiritual self-care practice (outside of the group yoga classes) that I finally began to experience some relief - and eventually real tools that helped me break through obstacles. These tools still help me today.

1 Question to Stop Giving Away Your Inner Peace

1 Question to Stop Giving Away Your Inner Peace

One of the questions offered in January’s reflection (svadhyaya in sanskrit) is “What triggers or habits disturb my peace?’

It’s an empowering question that encourages us to grow in awareness and joy; and shift from victim consciousness to hero consciousness in our lives. It has helped me tremendously over the years - as well as so many people I work with privately.

This question helps us move our focus from what is happening to us, to what is happening from us.